As humans our brains are hard-wired for negativity, meaning we are prone to focus on the problems we face on a daily basis.
Now this is a benefit when you’re are in danger, and you have to swim for your life as a shark approaches you.
But on the flip side, this constant negativity is not so helpful when you’re trying to psyche yourself up to speak in public or ask your boss for a pay rise!
A great little exercise that I get my clients to do when they are feeling less than confident about their abilities is to create an ‘Awesome List.’
I know that this sounds like a rather trivial and basic exercise, but I promise it will help you to see all the amazing things YOU HAVE achieved that you have probably overlooked!
Start this exercise by taking some time to write down your achievements, recent wins, things that you’re proud of or even positive comments/feedback you have received from others.
For example you could list down that you’re proud of mastering a new pose in yoga, you received a High Distinction in one of your university courses, that you cooked an amazing meal for your partner or that you won the egg and spoon race in year two!
It doesn’t matter what you write down – as long as it’s something that evokes pride. The goal is for you to acknowledge your ‘Awesomeness!’
It’s up to you to choose a time frame of when you would like to focus on.
The reason why I suggest having a time frame is because it helps you get super specific and focus on the exact things you accomplished.
You may want to focus on things you have achieved today, in the last month or even relating to a specific/distinct time in your life, (your university studies, your time as a business owner, your first year of marriage etc).
What ever time frame lights you up and gets your self-confidence soaring, FOCUS ON THAT!
As you start listing out a few achievements you may find that all of a sudden you become stuck and can’t think of any more accomplishments.
Don’t worry, this is completely normal, especially when your not feeling overly confident!
A great trick I use when I think I’ve come to the end of the ‘achievement road’ is to ask myself ‘what else?’
This forces me to keep thinking of more life highlights, achievements and positives in my life. You will be surprised how this little prompt helps to expand your ‘Awesome List,’ so don’t write yourself off too soon!
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As I said before, I know this may seem like a really trivial exercise but when you shine a positive light on all that you’ve done in your life, I can guarantee you will start to feel more confident and soon you will be beaming!
Now it’s your turn! I’d love for you to share some of the great accomplishments that you have listed down on your ‘Awesome List’ Just add them in the comments section below!
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