Do you feel like you’re living in limbo?
Are you in that awkward stage between ‘where you are’ and ‘where you want to be?’
I don’t know if it’s the lunar phases, the weather or just me projecting, but it seems like so many people I talk to feel like they’re in this rather annoying ‘space between.’
Maybe you’re waiting to move house or you’re working in a contract role and you have to wait a few months to apply for the same job.
Or maybe you’re waiting for a key project to be launched within your business or you’re waiting for your health to improve, so you can feel like you’re back on track?
THE CONSISTENT THEME = WAITING.
If you’re anything like me, waiting or being patient isn’t your strength.
And with this waiting comes uncertainty and a lack of clarity. Again, two things I don’t swoon over.
PERSONALLY, I’M EXPERIENCING A STATE OF LIMBO IN A FEW AREAS OF MY LIFE:
My New Website
I’ve been patiently waiting for several months now to launch my new website into the world.
Because I don’t have my new site I’m feeling constricted and stuck. I feel like I can’t progress within my business and showcase all that I offer my clients.
My Living Arrangements
Our landlord recently decided we’re not welcome to stay in our unit. (Long story…just know he’s a jerk).
Usually I wouldn’t care too much but seeing as though I have less than 3 weeks left in Hong Kong before I fly home to have my baby, this is kind of stressful.
My plans of nesting and having the nursery all set up nicely and the thought of ‘coming home’ to our little apartment isn’t quite panning out as I had hoped.
My Transition to Motherhood
This is the biggest one in terms of being in a state of limbo! As I’ve explained to friends, I feel like I’m in “no man’s land.” I’m not the girl I was at the end of 2015, travelling around Asia and dreaming big about 2016. I’m obviously not the same person physically or emotionally.
However, I’m not yet a mother.
I’m Ainslie with a very vague identity. I have no idea what to expect once the baby arrives and how life will unfold.
And here lies the most significant issue for me…and most likely you.
YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT.
AND WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT IT MAKES IT VERY DIFFICULT TO PLAN!
Planning makes us feel like we’re in control. We’re on track. We’re making progress and moving forward.
Not knowing what to expect can grind us to a halt. We overthink things, stress and become anxious.
We start to really push to make things happen and often it makes things worse.
In contrast to the aggressive pushing and over planning here’s what I suggest you do.
Stop fighting with yourself and your reality.
Stop pushing to make thing happens.
Stop worrying about what’s around the corner.
INSTEAD START ACCEPTING WHAT IS.
Start having faith that all is well.
Start trusting that things will unfold as they are meant to.
Start enjoying the ‘here and now.’
Start believing in divine timing and that the Universe has a fabulous plan for you.
I’m not going to lie.
Surrendering isn’t easy.
But once you drop your expectations, (or the outcomes you’re attached to), and you stop aggressively pushing you will feel a sense of relief.
YOU MAY EVEN FEEL A SENSE OF FREEDOM.
I’ve surrended. I’ve stopped pushing. I’ll be patient and I’m waiting with hope.
I’m not going to tell you that I currently feel wonderful, stress free and my world is full of unicorns and rainbows.
BUT I KNOW THAT THIS STATE OF LIMBO MEANS I’M ON THE THRESHOLD.
And beyond these challenges awaits a gleaming treasure chest.
The more challenges I face the more I grow and expand as a person.
And I know that the more challenges I overcome the more precious the treasure is!
Whether it’s a sparkly new website, an amazing new apartment or best of all, a beautiful baby, I’m prepared to let go and surrender.
Will you surrender with me?