Why you need to allow yourself to have what you already have
I’ve desperately been trying to ‘be, do and have’ more in my life and business since being back in Australia and before my baby arrives.
A friend recently commented that it looks like I’m winding UP in my business rather than winding down as the baby’s due date approaches.
At the time I didn’t agree but it wasn’t until I saw Dr. Libby on stage as a part of her ‘Surviving to Thriving’ tour that things started to slowly sink in.
Dr. Libby was explaining about the ‘stress express’ and how women are constantly looking ahead and not focusing on the present.
Then she shared this powerful sentiment, “Allow yourself to have what you already have.”
These were the exact words I needed to hear.
I knew that my frustration was high and my confidence was a tad low so the next day I decided to create my Awesome List.
Dr Libby’s words and this exercise helped show me that I was so focused on where I currently am versus where I to want to be, that I’ve not taken stock of all the wonderful things I already have in my life (and what I’ve achieved).
At the start of the year I wrote out a number of goals I wanted to tick off in the first half of 2016, which included:
- Rebrand Starting With A and launch my new website,
- Become a Certified Beautiful You Coach,
- Launch my free DIY Mini-Coaching Guide – ‘Mind Wide Open,’
- Host a successful copywriting workshop in Hong Kong,
- Launch ‘A Date With Ains’ interview series,
- Launch an online product or online course (Copy That Connects and Converts),
- Pitch an article once a month to online media platforms,
- Climb the Great Wall of China.
I’m pleased to say that I achieved everything on my list except pitching an article once a month! (I even climbed The Great Wall of China 5 months pregnant!).
But I think at times we’re all guilty of looking ahead and focusing on what we don’t have in our lives.
We get so caught up in what we’re striving for that we keep pushing and we don’t pay any attention to the present or celebrate our successes.
I know that in the last four weeks I’ve been guilty of this.
I’ve not been following my morning routine – instead I’ve madly been reading emails and business articles, looking at online courses and strategising before I’ve even get out of bed! (With the notion that all this content will rapidly catapult me closer to my business goals…which is ridiculous as I’m having a baby in a few days).
But the two things from Dr. Libby’s seminar that I’m holding close at this point in time (which are a good reminder for all of us) are:
1. There’s no such thing as an overnight success
As I sat in the sold out auditorium I initially thought, “Wow, Dr. Libby is so lucky to have a sold out event and such a successful business.”
But I quickly reminded myself that she spent 14 years studying at University (including a PhD), she tirelessly worked 1-on-1 with clients building up her business and her success has been a long time in the making.
Consistent hard work, over time results in success…not luck.
2. Take it all in. Savour everything.
Rather than wanting to be, do and have more I need to soak everything up and really be grateful for what I have in the present moment and what I’ve achieved.
Simply, I need to allow myself to have what I already have.
Where in your life are you trying to ‘be, do and have’ more?
I’d love to hear more in the comments below!